The Truths and Myths of “Calm Down and It Will Happen”

If you've been through reproductive treatment, you've probably heard phrases like:
“Just relax!”
“Stop thinking about it and it will happen.”
“My girlfriend got pregnant as soon as they adopted a child!”

Let's be clear: stress itself does not cause infertility. Conversely, calm in itself does not lead to pregnancy.

Where is the truth?

• Chronic stress can affect hormonal balance, but it is not the root cause of infertility.
• Mental health matters, but it's not the magic key.
• The best treatment is a combination of medicine and psycho-emotional resilience.

Why is “calm down” so painful?

Because it belittles the experience, shifts the blame onto the woman, makes her feel guilty for “failing” to even calm down. This expression isolates rather than connects people.

What to say instead?

- “How do you feel?”
- “I'm with you, no matter what.”
“If you want to talk, I'm here. If you don't want to, I'm here again.”

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Holidays and clichés are part of life — but they don't have to be traps. With care, with time and with support, any difficult date will pass. And “calm down” will be replaced by “let yourself feel” — because that is true calm.

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