In vitro and the psyche — how to deal with tension?
In vitro is not just a medical procedure — it is a path that goes through the body, mind and heart. And sometimes the most difficult thing is not in the pain, in the examinations or in the injections, but in the patience, in the waiting, in the anxiety and in the hope.
Going through in vitro means experiencing emotional highs and lows, sometimes within a day. And this is normal.
What does a couple experience during in vitro?
- Stress from the diagnosis and ambiguity;
- Pressure from time, age, expectations;
- Financial stress;
- Fear of failure — especially if there has already been one;
- Isolation — the feeling that others are “just getting pregnant” and you are struggling;
- Sometimes — feelings of guilt, shame, anger, sadness.
How to help each other emotionally?
Allow yourself to feel!
This is not a “test of strength” — it is a path. You can be both brave and scared at the same time. Allow yourself to be disappointed, cry, be silent, hope.
Talk — with the person next to you, with a friend, with a therapist!
Emotions that are kept in oneself often grow. Sharing takes the pressure off and helps you reconnect with yourself — and the person next to you.
Limit the comparisons!
Every time is different. Yours is not less valuable because it is longer or more difficult. You are not “less of a woman”, you are not a “weaker man”. You're two people fighting — and that's beautiful.
Give yourself a sip of normalcy!
In vitro should not consume your entire identity. Give yourself time for a walk, a book, a movie, friends. Breathe outside of protocols.
Work with a psychologist if you need!
There's no shame in that. On the contrary, mental resilience is a strength, not a weakness.
How do we support our patients?
At our clinic, we believe that healing begins with a human connection.
- We give time to explain and answer your questions;
- We create a space in which there are no “stupid emotions”;
- And most importantly - we believe in you even when you yourself hesitate.
Conclusion
In vitro is not just a path to a baby — it is a path to a stronger, more conscious, deeper version of yourself.
Take care of your psyche as you take care of your body. Because both deserve respect, care and love.